Three's Company
Awww spring. The protests were in full bloom this week and the war rages on. I can smell the change in the air. It smells like ridiculously over-priced oil.
My boyfriend and I have been going together for about 9 months. We have been
off and on a bit but lately things have been getting serious. He lives in a
house with a bunch of other guys and a couple
of girls. I don't mind him being around other women but recently he told me
that his ex girlfriend is moving into the house. And not just the house but
the same room in which he sleeps. Every time I try to talk to him about it he
says I'm overreacting. I want to tell him that I don't think it's right, but
I don't know how.
My first instinct is that this is a very odd situation, but I am going to
look at it from everyone's perspective. Your boyfriend is thinking that this
is really sweet. He has you, and now he will have a chick living in his
room. He is going to look really cool to all his friends and he will get
laid when he leaves, and when he comes home. What a stud.
His ex-girlfriend either has intentions of getting back together with him,
or she really needs a place to crash. Why can't she crash somewhere else?
Maybe she is trying to get back together with him. The easiest way for a
girl to get with any guy is to sleep in his bed every night. I don't know
about you, but any guy who tries to crash in my bed pisses me off. If he
tries to feel me up on top of this, I bark and growl. Couldn't they have the
decency to wait for the invite? Or, are they only concerned about getting
pregnant? Men, look out for any woman who just "crashes in your bed". Who
knows what else she is capable of. Possibly poking a hole in the condom? Oh,
honey, I crashed in your bed last night, but guess what, "I'm pregnant and
you are nice, what should we do?"
Do you want to trust your boyfriend and believe that he is just doing his
ex-girlfriend a favor by letting her crash in his bed? Do you want to trust
that he won't sleep with her even if she tries? How can you? Is she good
looking and does she have a working vagina? I say trust your gut instinct
on this one and don't make yourself look bad.
This would never happen if the situation was reversed because any guy who let his girlfriend sleep in the same room with an ex would get laughed out of his group of friends.
You have to put your foot down in a situation like this. Obviously this bothers you and really is this relationship really that great that you'd be willing to let him walk over you like this? I'm gonna guess no, because he obviously isn't making a lot of dough if it's so bad that he has to split the rent on a room, not to mention with his EX!
As Lindsey says it makes you look bad. The odd thing is women will accept this fate time and time again just to hold onto to some guy. I've never figured it out, but I would like to thank you ladies for letting us walk all over you. It makes it easier when we don't have to worry about your feelings.
Topic of the Week: What does a guy have to do to get you ladies to break up with him?
