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03/19/06

Don't Mess with Texas

Filed under: Life — Hawkwind @ 06:03:11 pm

Coming live to you from the Marriot hotel in beautiful downtown Austin, Texas it's this week's edition of Cats and Dogs. I'm at SXSW this week which if you don't know what it is well, it's like the biggest music festival in the country. Maybe the world? Highlights were staying with my Dutch buddies, Cali and Bryan letting me sleep on their floor when I first got in, all the cool writers from across the country, sweet fist fight at the Saviours show, Vice Party, Arthur Party, all the day parties BBQ, bands, beer, and getting to see my brother Dean and Sue from Sub Pop.

And now we'll get back to reality and give my liver a bit of break with some of this week's questions.

How can you feel personally successful and yet still 'need' someone else in your life? Can you ever feel 'whole' alone? - Shannon

Well, I think Lindz and I will probably disagree here, but I don't think you need anyone else to feel whole. A lot of people think that you just fall in love with someone because you can't help it. Of course I've been in love before but it doesn't change the fact that I need to feel happy alone before I can love someone else.

There are a lot of people that get themselves in shitty situations because of "Love." Whether it's working at a crappy job to stay near someone or getting pregnant early in life. In my opinion best way to go about life is to figure out what makes you happy before you get into a serious relationship. We've all made our mistakes in life, but you have to learn from them and follow your goals. My idea of success is to be happy with what you're doing in regardless of how much money you make or if anyone else gives a shit. I think once you reach this level of personal success then you're relationships will be that much stronger. Sometimes you have to bang a lot of chicks in the process though. That's just part of growing up.

Why are some people just plain mean? - Teddy

People are mean because other people ask annoying questions. Take me for example. Perfectly nice guy. But if you act like a dummy around me then I tend to get mean. I have a short temper when I feel like someone isn't paying attention or just doesn't care. This last part comes from my father. One of the things I wasn't allowed to say while growing up was "I don't care." Some people are so passive and meek that they can't even understand why someone would be angry with them. Well it's because you're
acting stupid. Ignorance is fine. What bothers me is when people are ignorant and just don't give a fuck. If I ask you a question and you don't know the answer don't act like it's my fault. I hate it when people say stuff like "well I don't pay attention to the news" or they say that they like every type of music, but can't name an album by any of their "favorite bands." I'm not saying it's ok to be mean. I always feel really bad when I'm mean to someone and I apologize as soon as I can. It'll save you and the people around you a lot of grief to just be nice. This probably isn't answering your question very well and I'm assuming that people have probably been mean to you in the past. I'd ask myself. Am I an
ignorant jackass? You might be. Do I annoy others around me? You probably do. In that case next time someone is being mean to you ask them why? It might help you understand.

Was that mean? Now I feel bad.

Topic of the week: What is the meanest thing you have done to someone or have had done to you in a relationship?

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Jed, what is the meanest thing you have done to someone, or have had done to you?
Comment by Linzalicious [Member] — 03/20/06 @ 18:52
I think its funny, you sit there and say how it so annoying when people ask questions, but I can count about four questions in the second half of your blog. Unless you are just talking to yourself?
Comment by Linzalicious [Member] — 03/20/06 @ 18:58
Love is not a destination but a journey. I consider it a road trip where you get stop by some really cool towns and others are real shitholes.
Comment by nwgirl38 [Member] — 03/20/06 @ 20:43
I know probably all of the mean things Jed has done to women but I'll never tell (actually, I think there's only one thing). Nor will I tell what I've done or gone through. All I have to say is that I nor Jed have done anything as bad as what this guys experienced:

http://www.nbc5.com/news/8089105/detail.html

(The link above goes to the same story).
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/20/06 @ 23:00
I know probably all of the mean things Jed has done to women but I'll never tell (actually, I think there's only one thing). Nor will I tell what I've done or gone through. All I have to say is that I nor Jed have done anything as bad as what this guys experienced:

http://www.nbc5.com/news/8089105/detail.html

(The link above goes to the same story).
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/20/06 @ 23:00
NO really, why can't I leave a normal comment?
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/20/06 @ 23:02
because you are gay. You and your boyfriend sitting there late at night on the bed, next to each other, laughing at funny pictures on your lap top together....he he he. he he he. Post this Jed. No, you post it. No, you do it. NO. I dont want too. You do it. Okay...he he he. he he he.
Comment by Linzalicious [Member] — 03/21/06 @ 09:34
ha that's my friend Kevin. Iogged in his computer and so now he's posting under my name.
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/21/06 @ 12:26
Needing others to feel whole is a recipe for disaster. I mean, it's okay to need, but not to expect someone to fill all our own gaps. That's a co-dependent relationship. According to Really Relating, a book I consulted some years ago (while trying to fix a co-dependent relationship), couples need to aim towards "H", where the two vertical lines represent each person, yet they have a connection through the horizontal line. Notice that if the relationship breaks up, each person is strong enough to stand on their own. A co-dependent one is shaped more like an "A" - a more of an unhealthy leaning, that reselts in people falling flat on their face when it's over.
I recon the meanest thins I've done are piss two girfriends off without any explanation 'cos they were just plain stuck in victim-mode and a real downer to be around - I just stopped contacting them, which would have left them wondering why. I feel pretty bad about it, but if I had of told them why I could no longer be friends with them, I was worried I'd hurt their feelings even more.
Comment by Juji [Member] — 03/21/06 @ 13:01
cat fight!!!!! fight fight fight fight......Fight fight fight. Get him while he's weak and puking. YES. YES. HOORAH. DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD. THE WICKED WITCH'S NAME IS JED. I hope that I am cheering you up Jed. Buddy ol' pal.
Comment by Linzalicious [Member] — 03/21/06 @ 17:30
what is your comment in relation too lindz? are juji and I fighting? that book sounds ridiculous Juji. H's and A's just dump her I say.
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/22/06 @ 19:08
Maybe you can't relate to H's and A's cos maybe your past liaisons have resembled X's, Y's, Z's or some other genetically mutant letter of the relationship-alpahbet. You wanna fight me, mate? Hang on, I'll get me mate.
Comment by Juji [Visitor] — 03/22/06 @ 20:36
See that's the problem with Alphabetical relationships, you should read my book Relating Really it's based on the 69 relationships, they're much more successful...
Comment by ThisGirlKnowsAll [Member] — 03/22/06 @ 20:41
Jeddy how is your flu doing are you any better yet? We are going to the office today so that is exciting, have you found a new place to live yet? Have you and Juji made up yet? What did you do last night? Did you sleep okay? blah.
Comment by Linzalicious [Member] — 03/23/06 @ 12:07
my flu is better now. I took the bird flu medication. not sure where I am living yet but i have looked at some cool places.

Juji and I are friends. I just don't respect any country that was formed by convicts.
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/23/06 @ 14:22
I hear there's a great bird flu quarantine centre with vacancies if you're looking for a pad.

We do keep handcuffs and shackles in the closet by the way.
Comment by Juji [Member] — 03/23/06 @ 20:15
Juji always finds a way to turn her comments towards me into some sexual proposition.
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/23/06 @ 23:05
Well, as you can see, Jed's last comment was in an attempt to piss off Juji. Lets see if it works? .................................................................

Comment by Linzalicious [Member] — 03/23/06 @ 23:32
Well Linz, It ain't gonna work 'cos I don't take his bait and we know he has a tendency to live in fantasy land.
Comment by Juji [Member] — 03/24/06 @ 02:46
i wasn't trying to piss anyone off. just stating fact. Juji is a very open sexually as evidenced by her blog and i think a lot of times when addressing me her underlying oh shall we say "worship" of me manifests itself in her comments.
Comment by Hawkwind [Member] — 03/24/06 @ 10:31
If you lived closer, I'd whack you over the head with a crayfish. Linz, will you do it for me please?
Comment by Juji [Visitor] — 03/24/06 @ 13:06
You are a legend in your own mind.
Comment by nwgirl38 [Visitor] — 03/25/06 @ 11:51
Juji, if he ever does it again, I will tell you and the world what he did in Austin. Not that he even gives a shit....he is an actor. Just joke with him. Tell him that you want to lick his balls.
Comment by Linzalicious [Member] — 03/25/06 @ 18:12
The meanest thing I've ever done:
I dated a guy I didn't like and used him for sex and steak. (He made great steak.) I waited for him to say "I love you," then I broke up with him. I then slept with his neighbor. He promptly dropped out of his summer classes and moved home.
Comment by JPatt [Member] — 03/27/06 @ 01:21
It sounds good, I love the simplicity. Your posts are easy as a pie and really attractive at the same time.
Comment by Scott [Visitor] — 04/06/08 @ 14:17

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Don't Mess with Texas

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