Straight Up

One Night Stands

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1. I agree 100% with Jed

   Comment by smoothjokes [Member] — 07/08/05 @ 16:57

2. Come on man this is the 21st Century. Sleeping with her on the first date should not disqualify her...who cares. The girl that waits ten dates could be ten times more psycho. Maybe you were just so irresistble that she could not resist.

   Comment by nwgirl38 [Member] — 07/09/05 @ 16:21

3. As a girl that used to give it up on the first date, I have to agree with Jed. No matter how great the date went, a guy is just not going to respect you if you sleep with him on the FD. He might stick around for the sheer "hook-up" possibilities, but he wan't nothing more to do with you. He does consider you a skank, slut, ho-whatever. However, if the girl can just string him along a little bit, he appreciates her more. Nine times out of ten the girl he actually marries probably never had sex with him at all. Can anyone say Katie Holmes?

   Comment by Bridgette [Visitor] — 07/09/05 @ 21:11

4. There is a rare possiblity that he may call, BUT i doubt it. Once you've done the deed, what else is there to look forward to for the guy. Not much honey.

   Comment by makeupgirl [Member] — 07/10/05 @ 11:38

5. Sorry Jed, I just don't agree with you on this one. I have had what I thought would be a one night stand, man, three times now that have led to "friends with benefits" situations twice and the other we ended up in a long term relationship.
   
   I hate to say it Melissa but it might be because the guy was just looking for some booty in the first place, or he just didn't see anything more with you (No matter how many times guys deny it, some of them really do want a relationship).
   
   I am not saying you should give it up the first date, but if you happen to, don't feel like thats why the guy never called you again. Also, you were drunk, the sex probably wasn't that good, so do you really care?

   Comment by Jacqui [Member] — 07/10/05 @ 16:33

6. As a female who has had a one night stand and with friends who has had many .. has anyone thought that maybe she just didn't rock his world, the sex sucked or maybe she didn't. My take is that if the sex was mind blowing he'd call back even if he was married (another possibility). Caution to girls that get drunk and screw, I know some of some girls that wakes up with a missing wallet, clothes hidden or discarded or with just a really terrible itch.

   Comment by Shivanni [Member] — 07/10/05 @ 22:20

7. Yea. He might call you but it will be when he is desperate and wants to get laid again. What were you trying to get out of the deal? Please tell me you at least got an orgasm out of it!

   Comment by tinytoes [Member] — 07/12/05 @ 15:10

8. I agree with you Jed 100%. And I disagree with you Euphoria...If a guy just wants a fuck and u dont give it to him on the first date, then he'll find someone who will after your date is over. All he has to do is go to a bar. There are plenty of girls over there who are willing ya know. Melissa, u shouldnt be hurt because of that jerk. It's obvious that he took advantage of ur drunken state. You should just forget about him and not be hurt because of the experience. Just to be on the safe side, u should visit a clinic to make sure that he didnt transfer a disease to you. Maybe he didnt wear a condomn.. In any case, just try to not over do it with the drinks and you'll be fine honey. Love, Ruby.

   Comment by insatiable4fun [Member] — 07/16/05 @ 04:12

9. Oh, good points, snowpea. Why on earth would any man want to have a relationship with a woman who's ready whenever he is and who's hot for him?
   
   I'm sure most guys would rather be with ice queens who won't put out so they can just complain about it and will always have a good excuse to cheat.

   Comment by Euphoria [Member] — 07/16/05 @ 21:44

10. Euphoria, I gather from what you are saying that in order to not be a total ice queen or to be into sex, that you have to be a slut? Just because a woman choses to demand respect and be discriminating doesn't mean that she doesn't have a healty sex drive, or isn't sexually attracted to a man. It simply means that she may have a better chance of making a long lasting, respectable, caring, non philandering relationship. Making a man work for it doesn't mean that he will never have sex. It simply means that he will appreciate it and respect you more. Doesn't the promise of many years of passionate, hot, steamy love making sessions with someone you desire and are horny for seem better then a few one night stands?
    
    Oh and btw there is NO GOOD excuse to cheat!

    Comment by snowpea [Member] — 07/17/05 @ 16:51

11. Oh, for fuck's sake...Why do so many of us insist on continuing to refer to women who enjoy having an easy lay as sluts. Women are sexual beings, people. Just like the guys. And sometimes we wanna get laid. It's okay, it's fine, it's totally normal. All this talk about sluts and ho's and skanks just reinforces the ridiculous idea that women "shouldn't" enjoy sex for sex, but apparently it's okay for guys and that double-standard is old as dirt. I am good-goddamn sick and tired of having women's sexuality, MY sexuality, pathologized by a bunch of stupid assholes who can't stand the thought of women taking control of their own bodies and their own pleasure. Until people wake up and realize that women liking random sex isn't some horrible thing, millions of women will continue to feel ashamed of their own desires and will continue to base their sexual behaviors not on what will make them happy, but on what will keep other people from talking shit and making their lives miserable. Some women like to fuck, get over it already. If some like to be prissy-pants, then good for them. But leave us happy horny gals the fuck alone...

    Comment by darlakitt [Visitor] — 07/21/05 @ 21:32

12. Darlakitt’s response warms my heart. I had a lot of the same thoughts reading some of this stuff. I did a year-long stint as a ‘romance enhancement specialist,’ as we are known in the biz, ‘sex toy girls’ as we are known outside the biz. Until you have been in a room full or buzzed girls and buzzing vibrators, you cannot tell me that girls are not purely sexual beings as much if not more than men. (Just to clarify, because I got this question all too often, NO it is not a crazy orgy party where girls get naked and use vibrators on each other; it is a very tasteful, informative and fun presentation). And in my experience, vibrators are even more reliable than men not to call you the next day.
    Women’s sexuality is alive and well and people who aren’t comfortable admitting that are either afraid of it or afraid of their own sexuality.
    In other words, one night stands can be great for both parties (of course, as long as they are safe; I at least agree with Jed on that point) but in Michelle’s case, it sucks because you obviously had different thoughts on where the date/relationship was going. In that case, the best thing to do is go out, get some guys number you have no intention of calling and use it to throw your gum away in. Sleeping with him is optional. It might be bad karma, but it might make you feel better.
    

    Comment by StacyB [Member] — 07/21/05 @ 23:59

13. I don't think the issue here is whether or not women are as interested in sex as men. Obviously, they are. The issue is what follows sex. There is no tacit agreement that an emotional relationship will follow a one night stand, even if he asks for her number. And why should there be? I'm a woman. If I sleep with a dude right after I meet him, I don't expect anything else. Why should I? I know nothing of him, except the approximate size of his wang. After sex, I'm not able to gauge whether or not I want to get to know someone - only whether or not I want to have sex with him/her again.

    Comment by Bunny [Member] — 07/30/05 @ 10:30

14. I'm supporting this idea all the way! I can not imagine who would disagree with it. On the whole - make posts like this more often.

    Comment by davesslave [Visitor] — 04/06/08 @ 14:05

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