Dope Guns and Fucking in the Streets
Actually its quite hard to obtain a firearm here in the Netherlands.
So here I am in Amsterdam. I havent been to that many places in the world but Amsterdam is by far my favorite. I dont even smoke dope unless Im driving. The people the food and the sheer beauty of the city are amazing.
The only problem is that right now the garbage men are on strike. It makes it a bit difficult to enjoy a nice Van Gogh when you have to step over a pile of trash. All the clowns are dumpster diving in the Red light District. Cheap Baloon Animals I guess. Psych!
The last few days I was at the Lowlands festival which is not unlike any other European festival or Lollapalooza. We started the festival off with an egg Sandwich which apparently is some sort of good luck thing. And ended by throwing some gas station croquettes out the car window. It must have worked because I got to meet former Prime Minister of Holland Ruud Lubber and then later spent part of the day hanging out with Juliette Lewis backstage. She was very nice actually but I was a bit too shy to talk to her. Even I get shy sometimes so if youre reading this Ms. Lewis give me a call. I was the dude that you gave half your candy bar to.
So the fact of the matter is that Im two blocks away from a bunch of crazy sex acts going on at this very moment. All legal by the way. The Red light district is a very depressing place in the daytime. Some people think its always depressing but at night the women seem like theyre having a good time and I know the men that go there are. its just a blast to go there with people you know and walk around. Its such a bizzare idea for us Americans. Anyway it reminds me of an e mail I got from my best friend informing me of a topic I should address so here goes it.
Over the years some of my friends including myself have either dated or just hooked up with women who have worked in the sex industry. These include strippers, burlesque dancers, girls who have been in porn magazines, women who pose naked on the internet etc etc..
Basically I think that men have a strong attraction to these types of women because a lot of times they think similar to us when it comes to sex. The problem with dating these women is that theyve all been fucking nuts. Im not saying I would never date another stripper again(like I said the attraction is very strong) but I would be very cautious as to get into a serious relationship.
I have a best friend whose ex-girfriend is now on Suicidegirls.com. This bird was so fucking nuts and so violent that he ended up having to get a restraining order against her. This was after she fucked some other dude at a party at their house while they were living together.
Another time me and my friends were all hanging out at strip club. The night is winding down and so one of the dancers invites my buddy to go home with him. She was smokin hot so of course he went. I end up back at the hotel with my girlfriend of the time only to be woken up at 7 am by my friend calling me on my cell phone. He was asleep in the stripper chicks bed when her boyfriend jumps through her window and starts beating the shit out of him. He was fully clothed in the bed with her but of course her boyfriend doesnt give a shit. Anyway the dude leaves and comes back 15 minutes later on his bike to beat up my friend some more. Eventually I found him and he was all bruised up. Ive heard since then that this girl has done the same thing to a few other guys. By the way she was also on Suicidegirls.com.
The only time Ive ever been in anything that remotely resembled an abusive relationship was when I dated a dancer from Canada. It was great at first, we would get drunk and fuck all the time and she would even bring her friends over as well. Of course she ended up getting so fucking jealous that she would cry and scream and throw shit, whenever we would get in even the smallest arguments. The last time I saw her which was years after we broke up she started screaming at me in a bar and ran of with some gross dude. I think she was trying to make me jealous but all i could do was feel sorry for that guy.
My point in all this is not to paint women who work in the adult industry in a bad light, these are just a few experiences. However Ive yet to ever hear a guy say Hey I getting married to that coked up stripper we met in Portland. Kick ass. I know that women have had good experiences with sex jobs. Ive just only read about or seen these people on TV.My problem is that some of these web sites and magazines these days preach it as female empowerment. I think its really just a bunch of fucked up chicks that like to get naked.
You guys feel the same way right.
Comment by Linds [Member] — 08/22/05 @ 14:05
Suburbia in perfect homes but were too sheltered and as a form of rebellion turned to the industry for excitement and revenge or attention or lack there of that they were not recieving from home.
As for the psycho element I guess one could only guess the walls and the guards that these girls have had to build to protect themselves after ging through whatever it is that drove them there in the first place.. as far as that being one perspective, I have also met people who have made better lives for themselves, faced with the same trauma that these girls are often confronted with, without having to take off their clothes for a dolalr- but who am I kidding even in a marriage situation one could easily compare the taking of of clothes and sex as a trade off for other things as well too,only in some instances we have one repeat customer.
I could be very wrong about that theory..Im sure that I will hear much about this -
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Comment by Linds [Visitor] — 08/22/05 @ 19:06
My theory is guys that date psycho girls whether they are strippers or secretaries are attracted to PSYCHO CHICKS it has nothing to do with the fact of her job. I would bet every penny I have in the bank that she is smokin hot and that is why the guy puts up with her crap.
Suicide Girls...that is an alt site with tattoo barbies, into S&M, etc. it is part of the scene...the guys are crazy as well.
I had a friend Cindy who fell under the "A List" category who stripped, dated rock stars, and was damn crazy when it came to guys. The drama was more due to drinking and drugs...Where is she now ten years later...married in Nebraska with a kid.
Jed, I think you like drama...it's all about the sex, drugs, rock n roll lifestyle.
Comment by nwgirl38 [Member] — 08/22/05 @ 21:21
Sometimes I think you have it so wrong - or maybe I do (here I go when Ive been getting such postive comments on the forum to mess it up now) but I have to say Jed...
I am not an animal lover but I got stuck with this dog,the ugliest thing I have ever seen and I treat her with the least consideration at times, I dont talk to her, I dont pet her often, I bitch at her all the time for chewing my shoes (arrggg)basically I am shitty to her but from the moment I leave the house, she sits by the fucking door and the bitch waits there untill I return, then Id walk into the door and I swear she'd cautiously jump all over me careful not to kiss me because she knows I hate that...this dog who I ignore but Ive in some sick way become her world.
There is a point somewhere here and please no PETA attacks as I do care very well for the dog and there are others in my house that do doggie stuff with her..
Ok..Jed..my point is, thats a dog but the people that you have become involved with are humans with if not more capacity to love and be loved or needed. Here they are God knows why they are there stripping, some selling themselves short of what they are worth and there you come along - what is the attraction? Does it ever go beyond tits and ass? Is it ever about that look in her eyes that says there is a story there that subconsciously you like to know. Maybe you have the Knight In Shining Armour Syndrome where you are looking for your princess whos locked in some Ivory tower of sorts and needs to be saved by you. Its not a bad rationale you know. I know you think that most of these women think like men, hence the attraction but I would beg to differ because I think that alot of these women surround themselves with walls - walls in the form of coke (to blur reality maybe), sex as a wall as if to say, that by taking so casually something so valuable as someones' self you are taking the ultimate and for them it no longer becomes something that is of value. As i mentioned in post number 2 there are many tragic reasons why most of these girls do what they do ,I dont think that when you look at them for the first time (tits and ass appeal) that they come out and tell you "Jed my father molested me when I was 8 so there is nothing you can do hurt me" its not so at all. I dont know, Nobody wants to be used and left for the vultures. So the attraction you feel for these women are what to you? Maybe like these women you are building your own walls - the wall that lets you walk away no emotional ties, I mean these girls dont care right? Indirectly you may be looking for what they are looking for... to be needed even if for a short moment. You may deny it, I may be wrong - But if your attraction is so strong towards these women I cant help but wonder why? I am learning that before you can save the world you have to save yourself first. Everyone needs to be loved and needed on some level...even my dog. So what I'm saying is that despite the fact that these women are open for whatever, and you are open for whatever, just know that beneath all of that open space there is so much more on both your perspectives- no body wants to marry the coked up stripper but every one wants to fuck her, she must be so proud of herself... and the next time the psycho stripper girl friend goes berzerk on you maybe its just deeper than her being jealous of you - I dont know man, we just have to be so careful how you treat people these days you know, you never know what you mean to someone after you walk away no matter how unimportant they may be to you - this is my downfall for as you know I am a bit of an inconsiderate hot head but in responding to your post this is how I feel.
(o so that there is no misunderstanding I am not comparing strippers to dogs Im just saying that even an animal meeds to be loved much less humans ..just wanted to clarify that)
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I think that some people would like to justify stripping as a feminist movement as Jed state (empowerment) but I cant see how, unless it is saying (this is my body I can do what I want) Of the interview I did, 15 out of the 20 girls admitted giving clients blow jobs, 9 were heroin addicts I believe and the vast majority were coked. Saying that, I met 3 who convinced me saying that they were clean and were going to college. Unfortunately these were not gold digging A listers- these were anybody's neighbours, alot of mothers and rebellious daughters. I always thought stripping was glamarous - It really isnt. These girls fight for clients, some go beyond dancing, maybe the novelty wears off after the first month or so - while these girls look great from the outside it is obvious that there is so much more going on inside. I did the piece while doing some writing for a local magazine, I had recently visited a butt naked club and just had to get behind the psychology of the women that worked there. I met a couple of good people there but sadly I walked away knowing that half these girls needed help that I was afraid they would never recieve. I examined my own life as well and in my piece I mentioned that I have dated people whom I have gotten naked in front of and the relationship didnt last - I got nothing out of it, these girls I guess view it that way - instead of giving it for free why not get something for it, I mean the relationship wont last anyways right? Maybe Im the idiot for leaving myself open for free sex, Im the idiot for thinking that Im so much better because I dont charge? How many of us have been burned by people that we have given our selves to? What makes us any better than these girls? We have more respect for ourselves,we dont do drugs, we wear more clothing than they do, we wernt victims of our environment? The next time I have sex I will be sure to ask myself, whats in it for me- Is it that I need to be needed/loved.. how long do I see myself in this relationship? Am I giving more than I am recieving? I think that while I am so busy analyzing that somewhere in the world a stripper has already made a couple hundred bucks and moved on to the next '"relationship"
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Comment by KZalan [Member] — 08/24/05 @ 19:11
I have to admit that I've had problems with models and artistic subjects in the past, but not too much since I keep everything professional... but you always run across the "bad seed" that gets psycho because you won't have sex with her and every time she has an orgasm she canes her boyfriend that's tied up in the corner. But alas, that's a long story best left for another day...
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